Monday, January 23, 2012
Sunday, January 22, 2012
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
To invite??? or not to invite???? Taking the stress out of your decision!
Now that your finally engaged and you've chosen your location for the ceremony and reception how do you decide who to invite? This decision causes many brides a lot of unneeded and unwanted stress, headache and heartache, and for other brides its a no brainer. This could help you have a happy send off on your wedding day and on the other side could be a bumpy start. This decision should definitely be made by you the bride and your groom after all everyone is coming to eat and boogie on the dance floor on your hard earned dollars, and even in the most desirable situation where "pops" has given you his American express black card this is your special day and there could be nothing worse than looking back on your day wishing you had or hadn't invited a few particular guest. So before you go stressing yourself out all for nothing and diving into the triple chocolate fudge cake with the biggest serving spoon you can find, have a talk with your fiancé and your parents to make sure everyone has a good understanding of who YOU want your special day to be celebrated with.
The family list is a very emotional thing you want all of your family to be there because they ARE your family but unfortunately there may be a few relatives who just can not put down their differences on your special day, so with that being said many wedding planners recommend putting together a list of family you know is going to be there come hell or high water and calling the ones who you know will need a lot of time to decide if its possible for them to come for several different reasons, so sending an invitation and making a few phone calls as time goes by will help them decided an keep you in the loop. Now that you have Settled business with the peaceful relatives it's time to journey back to the more difficult ones, the best thing you can do is definitely send an invitation and follow up with a phone call letting them know that you and your fiancé would absolutely love for them to be there on your special day however.. This is the most important day of your life that is all about the two of you and they are welcome to come under strict circumstances and then tell them what your require out if them and ask them to give you their word and keep it, and I'd they feel for any reason they can't keep themselves under control so that the spot light remains on you then maybe it's best if they decline the invitation, this is a hard excision to make but why chance your big day turning into a family feud and crying tears of regret because you allowed them to come without promising to be peaceful.
Friends? How many of us have them??? And how many real ones do you have? Now unless you have an unlimited budget this is another area that can get pretty sticky, because some will be mature and understand they didn't get invited and others will be holding this grudge against you for a long time. So the best thing to do is really ask yourself is this a true friend who I know has always been there for me without hesitation or jealousy? Is this friend really happy for me and supportive? Will this friend be able to contain themselves without getting too drunk or wild? Honestly the questions can go on and on but once again if you have a unlimited budget and are just trying to fill chairs then carry on and invite whomever you wish.
Last but not least co workers. Yes you work with these people everyday and maybe trade a shift or two it doesn't mean you have to pay them back by inviting them to yo eat and drink free on your special day unless you have become BFF's then that's another story. I also think bosses fall into this category if your boss is not really someone you'd want to party with then dont feel forced to invite him or her that's your right.
Everyone will have their suggestions of who you should invite and why but do your best and stick to your guns to make sure you and your fiancé get what you want.
The family list is a very emotional thing you want all of your family to be there because they ARE your family but unfortunately there may be a few relatives who just can not put down their differences on your special day, so with that being said many wedding planners recommend putting together a list of family you know is going to be there come hell or high water and calling the ones who you know will need a lot of time to decide if its possible for them to come for several different reasons, so sending an invitation and making a few phone calls as time goes by will help them decided an keep you in the loop. Now that you have Settled business with the peaceful relatives it's time to journey back to the more difficult ones, the best thing you can do is definitely send an invitation and follow up with a phone call letting them know that you and your fiancé would absolutely love for them to be there on your special day however.. This is the most important day of your life that is all about the two of you and they are welcome to come under strict circumstances and then tell them what your require out if them and ask them to give you their word and keep it, and I'd they feel for any reason they can't keep themselves under control so that the spot light remains on you then maybe it's best if they decline the invitation, this is a hard excision to make but why chance your big day turning into a family feud and crying tears of regret because you allowed them to come without promising to be peaceful.
Friends? How many of us have them??? And how many real ones do you have? Now unless you have an unlimited budget this is another area that can get pretty sticky, because some will be mature and understand they didn't get invited and others will be holding this grudge against you for a long time. So the best thing to do is really ask yourself is this a true friend who I know has always been there for me without hesitation or jealousy? Is this friend really happy for me and supportive? Will this friend be able to contain themselves without getting too drunk or wild? Honestly the questions can go on and on but once again if you have a unlimited budget and are just trying to fill chairs then carry on and invite whomever you wish.
Last but not least co workers. Yes you work with these people everyday and maybe trade a shift or two it doesn't mean you have to pay them back by inviting them to yo eat and drink free on your special day unless you have become BFF's then that's another story. I also think bosses fall into this category if your boss is not really someone you'd want to party with then dont feel forced to invite him or her that's your right.
Everyone will have their suggestions of who you should invite and why but do your best and stick to your guns to make sure you and your fiancé get what you want.
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Wedding season 2012 has arrived! Your engaged now what???
Many couples got engaged over the holidays and even before the holidays. Although there is lots of excitement that comes with being engaged there's even more anxiety and stress, you've dreamed of your big day and how you want it to play out but you don't know where to start to begin piecing it all together. I bake and design cakes and I do it well, however I do know a few things about planning a wedding and ways to make things a bit easier and save some cash in t. You can absolutely have the wedding of you dreams without leaving all your hard earned money behind however you must ask yourself a few things, and they are 1) whats most important to you? 2) what aspects of my wedding do I want to splurge on? 3) what am I willing to cut back on or leave out altogether? Once you can answer those question you will be well on you way to planning your big day.
Printing off a bride "to do" check list of things you'll need to to or have done is a great place to start and designating a go to person that will be able to answer questions on your behalf and help you deal with those stressful situations and when you just need a wedding free day. Having an assistant will also make sure the ball keeps rolling when you need a break and guarantees you that there will be no stone left unturned and no last minute details forgotten. A website that I used and recommend using is the knot.com it is absolutely awesome and you will find some great ideas, event planners and vendors that offer many services that can give you the guidance you need from how to make a seating chart to what's the most popular type meat to serve at your wedding.
Wedding season is considered to be in the early spring thru the summer and ending in the early fall however, many brides are beginning to choose the off season to score major discounts from venues caterers, bakery's, florist and photographers. The off season is similar to "mud season" in ski towns, most times you can stay at a four star luxury resort and live like the Kardashians for pennies because these places need to make money to keep the lights on, So keep that in mind when deciding the time of year you want to get married.
The time of year you decide to get married is just as important as the time of day. This is important because due to the fact that there will be guests at your wedding there is proper etiquette you must follow such as the type of food to serve, for example a mid morning reception means you would have a brunch menu, an afternoon would be a light lunch, early evening is orderves and cocktails, or dinner hour is going to require a seated dinner. The reason this could possibly save you some money is because some foods are lighter, require less preparation and cost less to prepare which means you food cost goes down. I would have to say my favorite is the early evening receptions where orderves are served with cocktails and people are up mingling and still light enough on their feet to dance the night away and eat the cake you spent your hard earned dollars on.
Last but not least ...In regards to alcohol being served all I'm going to say is yes it's nice to have an open bar but if you honestly can not afford to have an open bar or do not want to pay for other peoples liquor there is nothing wrong with a few bottles of good quality red and white wine and or a keg of beer and a cash bar so please don't feel pressured to do something you really can't afford and really don't want to do.
Now that your engaged and before you go getting stressed and giving up on your elegant fairy tale wedding try some of the tips above and see if you can create a whimsical day with your wallet intact.
Printing off a bride "to do" check list of things you'll need to to or have done is a great place to start and designating a go to person that will be able to answer questions on your behalf and help you deal with those stressful situations and when you just need a wedding free day. Having an assistant will also make sure the ball keeps rolling when you need a break and guarantees you that there will be no stone left unturned and no last minute details forgotten. A website that I used and recommend using is the knot.com it is absolutely awesome and you will find some great ideas, event planners and vendors that offer many services that can give you the guidance you need from how to make a seating chart to what's the most popular type meat to serve at your wedding.
Wedding season is considered to be in the early spring thru the summer and ending in the early fall however, many brides are beginning to choose the off season to score major discounts from venues caterers, bakery's, florist and photographers. The off season is similar to "mud season" in ski towns, most times you can stay at a four star luxury resort and live like the Kardashians for pennies because these places need to make money to keep the lights on, So keep that in mind when deciding the time of year you want to get married.
The time of year you decide to get married is just as important as the time of day. This is important because due to the fact that there will be guests at your wedding there is proper etiquette you must follow such as the type of food to serve, for example a mid morning reception means you would have a brunch menu, an afternoon would be a light lunch, early evening is orderves and cocktails, or dinner hour is going to require a seated dinner. The reason this could possibly save you some money is because some foods are lighter, require less preparation and cost less to prepare which means you food cost goes down. I would have to say my favorite is the early evening receptions where orderves are served with cocktails and people are up mingling and still light enough on their feet to dance the night away and eat the cake you spent your hard earned dollars on.
Last but not least ...In regards to alcohol being served all I'm going to say is yes it's nice to have an open bar but if you honestly can not afford to have an open bar or do not want to pay for other peoples liquor there is nothing wrong with a few bottles of good quality red and white wine and or a keg of beer and a cash bar so please don't feel pressured to do something you really can't afford and really don't want to do.
Now that your engaged and before you go getting stressed and giving up on your elegant fairy tale wedding try some of the tips above and see if you can create a whimsical day with your wallet intact.
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