Now that your finally engaged and you've chosen your location for the ceremony and reception how do you decide who to invite? This decision causes many brides a lot of unneeded and unwanted stress, headache and heartache, and for other brides its a no brainer. This could help you have a happy send off on your wedding day and on the other side could be a bumpy start. This decision should definitely be made by you the bride and your groom after all everyone is coming to eat and boogie on the dance floor on your hard earned dollars, and even in the most desirable situation where "pops" has given you his American express black card this is your special day and there could be nothing worse than looking back on your day wishing you had or hadn't invited a few particular guest. So before you go stressing yourself out all for nothing and diving into the triple chocolate fudge cake with the biggest serving spoon you can find, have a talk with your fiancé and your parents to make sure everyone has a good understanding of who YOU want your special day to be celebrated with.
The family list is a very emotional thing you want all of your family to be there because they ARE your family but unfortunately there may be a few relatives who just can not put down their differences on your special day, so with that being said many wedding planners recommend putting together a list of family you know is going to be there come hell or high water and calling the ones who you know will need a lot of time to decide if its possible for them to come for several different reasons, so sending an invitation and making a few phone calls as time goes by will help them decided an keep you in the loop. Now that you have Settled business with the peaceful relatives it's time to journey back to the more difficult ones, the best thing you can do is definitely send an invitation and follow up with a phone call letting them know that you and your fiancé would absolutely love for them to be there on your special day however.. This is the most important day of your life that is all about the two of you and they are welcome to come under strict circumstances and then tell them what your require out if them and ask them to give you their word and keep it, and I'd they feel for any reason they can't keep themselves under control so that the spot light remains on you then maybe it's best if they decline the invitation, this is a hard excision to make but why chance your big day turning into a family feud and crying tears of regret because you allowed them to come without promising to be peaceful.
Friends? How many of us have them??? And how many real ones do you have? Now unless you have an unlimited budget this is another area that can get pretty sticky, because some will be mature and understand they didn't get invited and others will be holding this grudge against you for a long time. So the best thing to do is really ask yourself is this a true friend who I know has always been there for me without hesitation or jealousy? Is this friend really happy for me and supportive? Will this friend be able to contain themselves without getting too drunk or wild? Honestly the questions can go on and on but once again if you have a unlimited budget and are just trying to fill chairs then carry on and invite whomever you wish.
Last but not least co workers. Yes you work with these people everyday and maybe trade a shift or two it doesn't mean you have to pay them back by inviting them to yo eat and drink free on your special day unless you have become BFF's then that's another story. I also think bosses fall into this category if your boss is not really someone you'd want to party with then dont feel forced to invite him or her that's your right.
Everyone will have their suggestions of who you should invite and why but do your best and stick to your guns to make sure you and your fiancé get what you want.
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